People are sick.
Oct. 23rd, 2002 11:04 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
osarabaI just spoke to Angelica over the phone; she's at work at the moment. Fay came into work early this morning, so she's there with Angelica. Apparently, a customer came into the store, and, like Fay always does, she starts chatting up the customer. It comes out that the woman has a 4-year old nephew who "likes to wear nice clothes." The woman knows this because she bought him a pair of silk, oriental design pajamas last year or something, and he really likes them. This, of course, makes him gay. Insert mental image here, of Fay and the anonymous woman nodding commiseratingly at each other. Oh, her poor brother-in-law. ::rolls eyes:: I can't believe people like this. How can anyone be so ridiculous?
At this point, whether he's gay or not is beside the point; he's 4 years old, for godssake! Since when does liking silk pajamas make a boy gay? ::bangs head on desk::
Fay and the customer quickly qualified their commiserating looks by saying the usual, "Even if he is gay, it's okay -- it's not like they choose to be that way." How much more ridiculous can they get?! It's nice that they're willing to "accept" it if the boy actually is gay, but I would really like to know how liking silk pajamas makes one gay?! Does that mean if you like cotton pajamas you're straight, but if you like satin pajamas you're bi? Where did this sort of measuring system originate anyway? And what about the fact that that statement is obviously an "us-against-them" mentality. I wish someone would come up to that woman and say something like, "It's okay that you're straight. Don't feel so bad; it's not like you chose to be that way."
Can't it just be that the boy liked the gift his aunt got him? And he likes to wear it 'cause it's nice, and maybe he remembers that his aunt got him a cool present? Or even if that's not it, and he likes it 'cause he has great taste in clothing, especially for a 4-year old, how does that make him gay?
I wish I'd been there to say something. Angelica said she was too stunned to say anything, but when it comes to this topic -- especially with Fay, and especially because she "secretly" fears/sympathizes for me because she thinks I'm a lesbian -- I have no problem speaking up. Actually, it amuses me that any time I say anything on the topic of homosexuality/gay rights/etc., it actually reinforces her belief that I'm a lesbian.
Jeez. People are sick.
Okay, now that I've had my brief moment of outraged-idealist ranting (the proverbial "exception that proves the rule"), I've gone back to my usual cynical-realist outlook.
Stuff about Yaoi-con to come soon.
At this point, whether he's gay or not is beside the point; he's 4 years old, for godssake! Since when does liking silk pajamas make a boy gay? ::bangs head on desk::
Fay and the customer quickly qualified their commiserating looks by saying the usual, "Even if he is gay, it's okay -- it's not like they choose to be that way." How much more ridiculous can they get?! It's nice that they're willing to "accept" it if the boy actually is gay, but I would really like to know how liking silk pajamas makes one gay?! Does that mean if you like cotton pajamas you're straight, but if you like satin pajamas you're bi? Where did this sort of measuring system originate anyway? And what about the fact that that statement is obviously an "us-against-them" mentality. I wish someone would come up to that woman and say something like, "It's okay that you're straight. Don't feel so bad; it's not like you chose to be that way."
Can't it just be that the boy liked the gift his aunt got him? And he likes to wear it 'cause it's nice, and maybe he remembers that his aunt got him a cool present? Or even if that's not it, and he likes it 'cause he has great taste in clothing, especially for a 4-year old, how does that make him gay?
I wish I'd been there to say something. Angelica said she was too stunned to say anything, but when it comes to this topic -- especially with Fay, and especially because she "secretly" fears/sympathizes for me because she thinks I'm a lesbian -- I have no problem speaking up. Actually, it amuses me that any time I say anything on the topic of homosexuality/gay rights/etc., it actually reinforces her belief that I'm a lesbian.
Jeez. People are sick.
Okay, now that I've had my brief moment of outraged-idealist ranting (the proverbial "exception that proves the rule"), I've gone back to my usual cynical-realist outlook.
Stuff about Yaoi-con to come soon.
